I have decided to decline your offer

So I decided to call the other family I discussed yesterday about declining their offer for employment and that didn't go well at all.

Family: Hi Shaun how are you I hope your calling with some good news for us!

Me: I am well thank you, I think you have a great family, after careful thinking I have decided that I would like to pursue a different opportunity, I wish you the best of luck of with your search and thank you for offering me the opportuinty to be a part of your family.

Family: May I ask why you have declined our position? Is it the money?

Me: No,its not the salary I just decided to pursue another opportunity, I am very sorry!

Family: Well we turned away a lot of other people in hopes you would accept our position, this is very unprofessional and you could have given us more notice.

Me: Again I am sorry good luck to you and thank you for your time. (I hang up)

>>>RING<<<

Me: Hello

Family: Yes, Shaun this is_____

Me: Yes, how can I help you?

Family: Does this have anything to do with us not letting you speak with our current Nanny?

Me: Like I said I am sorry , but I have decided to pursue another opportunity!

Family: To be honest with you she doesn't know we are looking and we thought it best not to tell her until we found someone.

Me: Well, I think its unfortunate that you have made this decision not to inform your current Nanny that you are not happy with her for what ever reason you may have, and like I said I have decided to pursue another opportunity and I think you should tell your Nanny that you are unhappy with her and that you are looking into other options so she can prepare herself that she is going to be unemployed and start looking for another position. Thank You again and good day!!!


Okay tell me why it is so hard to accept when a Nanny decides not go with your family, I was very professional and polite. I could have been really rude and gave my real reason for me declining, but that would have been unprofessional.

Rule #1 Parents when you are looking for a new Nanny to replace your old. Tell your current Nanny you are looking to replace her and talk to her about your concerns and see if they are rectifiable. Yes, you may have a 50/50 chance she will leave before you find someone to replace her, but eventually your going to run into a Veteran Nanny who will ask to speak with your current Nanny as a reference for the family and if you ignore her request or don't even address the issue it sends off a MAJOR RED FLAG to her.

Rule#2 Just because a Nanny declines your position, don't take it personal she just saying she doesn't feel like its a good fit for her but may be a good fit for someone else.

Rule#3 Keep in mind if you like a particular candidate there is probably another family that likes her just as much, so make sure you have 2-3 other candidates as runners up for your position if your favorite declines.

Rule#4 Make sure you are offering an competitive salary and benefits according to your area and never ever ever quote "DAY CARE" rates, Nannies I repeat don't work for "Day Care Rates"

Rule#5 Make sure what you quote a Nanny is the NET salary and not the Gross and if your not sure check out www.gtm.com and use the Nanny Tax Calculator!!